Slow Commitments

In order to be where you want to be you have to make a commitment to get there. You get what you give and you reap what you sow. If you're doing something you don't like doing, it's because you are committed to something other than what you "do" like doing (perhaps committed to a lack of commitment). These are practical realities that are true in any relationship you will ever enter into.

If you want to be friends with someone, you have to make a commitment to be friends with him or her no matter what. Legitimately, there are some people that you will never commit themselves to friendship, but Romans 12:18 and Hebrews 12:14 suggests that we should still try to live at peace with all men.

Here's the thought: be careful what you commit yourself to and honor your commitments. When you make a commitment, you enter into a covenant of sorts. You have a responsibility to honor a commitment; for example, in OT covenants, blessings came to those who honored their vows and curses were pronounced on those who broke the covenant. Specifically, as a Christian, every commitment we make to another person should first be a commitment to God. A value system should be established long before a commitment is made (that's why a child is under his or her parents' protection until he or she can enter a covenant his or herself--this is also a law in America, not just ancient Israel). A commitment is a big deal! Taking it slow--it's also honoring to the person whom you're making the commitment with, because it shows that you care enough about the person to establish their worth in a strongly foundational bond.